Growing up

This is the second article from a scratch paper I had scribbled on while travelling a year back when philosophy became the medium to express. It stemmed from a discussion with a friend about life in general..

Never knew what the phrases "Growing up" or "I have seen the world" actually meant until...
- I met some unreasonably selfish people and you have to put up with them and being cautious of how sweet they might get to hide it.
- When you wake up far far away from your family with nobody who selflessly cares for you and yet you manage to be at peace.
- When you have to stop expecting anything from anybody as a measure to stop hurting.
- When sometimes you land up in situations where the word "hope" seems empty and you cant call family for help and All you know and do is hang in there until the phase passes by.
- When you see people around falling apart and you have to pick them up.
- When suddenly the only happy people are kids.
- When you hardly ask anything from anyone but when you do once, and you dont get it.

That's probably when adults say..."The outside world is harsh and I have seen it" and then you realize its time to stop thinking so much and live happily :P

Avalanche of memories...

As time passes by, everyone sees unexpected Happy times and unwanted Sad times. And everyone wants to forget the latter no matter how valuable a lesson it has taught. In order to do so they try everything from getting busy to facing and crying it off. But still, like the adamant stains, they leave some residue. A slight trigger and one is rushed down the memory hill by an avalanche of memories.
In such times its highly desired that our near and dear one s don't provide the trigger to such a fallback. Its not easy to face things again and again when they have been put behind the curtains of time.
I sincerely wish if adult life were as simple as kids'. Just say things you feel, just clear things that hurt, just forget and start over anytime, or even...just forgive and never rethink the act. Actually speaking, no one stops us from being so free. Its only the chains of mind that keeps you from doing anything that others don't.
Easier said than done but once done, it feels easier than it were when said. :)

I don't know if my readers are with me coz I recently got a complaint that my blogs are abstract but I couldn't have elaborated on the description of avalanche in this one you know...
So here's it, a challenge for me and a story for you! :D

AutoEmote

That's the mode in which people attend weddings. Emote as soon as a slight warmth felt.
I don't blame people. We are made that way i guess. Happy on tickling, teary on parting...blah blah. But somehow I don't connect to those feelings which induce tears in marriages though I connect to the one's that make me laugh.. So with a sole intention of giving best wishes and bringing a little smile on my sisters face, I chose the path of writing a funny poem for my sisters wedding as a gift which I intended to put in the scrap book made by my Lil cousin sis.

Following is my poem. Not flowery, not sophisticated, but just a few feelings and memories that were put to words....just a day before my sis wedding and on the way to Delhi(the venue of marriage).
Like I promised(post-wedding), I wont stop anyone from emoting, but Ill try to learn to bring only that much warmth next time that can be held without melting peoples heart to tears.
Here is the poem :
To dearest Monaco(that's what I call my sis),

You've been a great student,
You've been an ideal sister,
Your life's been a guide,
with lots of pinnacles and pride.

We had fun,
We had fights,
it was innocent and without guile,
even if it was for a while.

Memories diminished,
time went faster,
we both grew taller,
and understood that, it was not "matter".
(background: we used to fight whose going to be taller when we would grow up.)

I remember how my tickles irritated you,
and how you closed yourself in a room for studies,
you were my mom's favorite,
and now you have found your mate.(I find this part funny)


We never discussed your marriage,
and it was best this way,
I dint know how to make this special,
This is my small little funny way.

I'm sure jiju is a gem,
just like you are to us,
So to share your joy we are here,
Happy n gay, dancing n hopping, here and there(This ones funny too :))

I wish you all the best,
and a happy married life,
rife with love and care,
in a life that you will now share.

So I handed over this poem to my to-be-wed sis..too embarrassed to read it aloud.
She said she wont cry and I said you cant on this funny one. :) But alas, she cried and I was guilty of being extra warm ...
But I'm sure she shall remember it and so shall I.
A few extra smiles I received for this, but my motive was served and it was a special moment for her.:)

Life is funny when its good and funny when its sad ...but only when the sad times have passed.

Learning...

It is said people learn from two sources. 1)from mistakes and 2)from others experiences. But either of these are not assuring any guarantee on the lesson learnt being correct. Different people may deduce different conclusions from different situations. Or may learn a different lesson and base their principles on this lesson differently.

In the end the result is that you rationalize your actions to put your conscience and the others around you to shut up.So this shows that point no. 2 doesn't really hold much guarantee of giving proper results. :) .

Whereas mistakes would get you to your inner voice which is the final voice I listen to when in a quandary. This doesn't mean I overlook peoples experience.They are useful to give you the extra eye you need at times before you make a final decision.

Hmmm.....well these are my musings....not overwhelmed this time...Guess I must start another blog for my musings. "My Musings"...a favorite title by majority of the bloggers.So that's not going to be it for me. :). No I am not a maverick. Just that My Musings are not for the world. Only when my musings materialize into a principle or a conclusion do I reveal .:)

P.S ok. Its midnight now and I am sleepy to write more.So concluding with a few words.... I am learning the ways of life and shall keep learning...Its fun. And ya I shall mix lessons from both the above sources in the amounts that my heart says is optimum. Adieu...till my pot of feelings overflows again and I run to my keyboard to type in some more words of wisdom from my life ;).(Pardon my immodesty)